Of course I want there to be a connection. That matters. But I’ve realized there can almost be too much of it. When we really vibe, couples want to talk, have me hang around, and include me in decisions and moments almost like another maid of honor. That comfort can create really sweet moments, but I actually prefer a little energetic space. I do my best work when I can step back, observe, document, and not be so involved in the story.